Fortify Your Relationship Or Marriage With Basic Concepts Part 1: A Woman's Prospective

It has been proven time and time again, that people are so conditioned to believe that complexity is better, we often bypass the best solution because it appears too simple.
The challenges of sustaining a relationship between two unique individual personalities leaves little time to figure out long and complicated solutions to anything.
Start with the basics.

Allow me to introduce you to what I refer to as the 'AAA' Concept.

AFFIRM:  1. state as a fact; assert strongly and publicly
               2. declare one's support for, uphold or defend

When a couple are in the process of falling in love, there are small ways of showing concern and support that leave firm imprints on the minds and hearts of both parties, throughout the relationship or marriage.
It is just as important to maintain that bond, yes,,it is a real bond,,,after the relationship has been established. Married couples fall into the trap of complacency. Both husband and wife can be guilty of failing to stay 'connected' with their spouse no matter where they are
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Wives and Girlfriends
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Gently touch your husband's cheek as you pass him talking on his phone. Whether he is talking to his mother, or talking noise about his fantasy football team to his friends; he will remember the touch. You are not asking him to drop the phone and take off your clothes (yet), but he needs to 'feel' your presence,,,whenever possible.
If he is serious sports fan, check with the professional teams in your area and take the short class for woman that is usually offered. It it is not local, but within driving distance, plan a 'girls weekend' trip. You might be surprised at how much you like it and he will brag to his friends about his wife's knowledge of the game.

This is popular now, but wives have been placing 'love' notes in pockets, wallets, and lunch boxes for many years. He is your husband, write him a note that will keep you on his mind at least half the day.
Listen to your heart and keep your instincts activated. This is important whether you have been married one year or twenty years. As women, we know what our insecurities might be and we deal with them.
 Men need just as much affirmation as women do; unfortunately, they are often uncomfortable expressing their feelings.

Husbands and Boyfriends

Women need to know that the man they love believes in who they are. A woman needs to 'see' that you love her by how you touch her. A woman needs to know that her place as your wife or woman is firmly in place. Wives should not have to take a number to spend time with her husband.

If you are socializing with a group of people, always keep your relationship warm enough to be able to caress your wife with a look,,,from across the room.
Make a point to touch her neck, gently squeeze her shoulder....basically, the same types of gestures you made during the courtship. Yes, I did say courtship.
A courtship that should quite frankly, never end.
Be as creative now as you were when you were trying to seduce her. Yes,,,seduce her; not just have sex. * If you did not attempt to make love after too many drinks during the courtship; there was a good reason, whether you know what it was or not.
 Alcohol 'sodden' sex is not at all sexy.


Women need to know that her man has her back. If someone in your circle of family and friends has a problem with your wife, it is your job to work that out, not her's. It might be a challenge, but it is certainly possible. If your wife(or husband) is wrong in some way; the two of you should work it out,,,in the privacy of your home.

It is important that husbands and wives always present themselves as a solid unit.

Affirm your relationship, your unity and your love.