Is Being Sexy Real or Imagined? / A Woman's Perspective

What is your definition of sexy?
While doing research for a male character, I realized just how complicated the answer to this question can be, for both males and females.
Several years ago, I had a quote on my desk saying confidence was the sexiest attribute of a woman. A male friend ( and a few females) laughed and said the statement was far from the truth. I was not surprised by his reaction, since men tend to be primarily focused on how the visual experience might be physically stimulating for them.

The same is often true for women. Many woman are just as moved by 'eye candy' as the average man. The older the woman, the less important the tall, dark, handsome, chiseled body becomes.
The mature woman will be equally moved by a confident, well versed man who is comfortable in his own skin.

As men get older, their focus on the physical beauty of a woman basically remains the same, but it is also possible that the more mature man will learn how to genuinely appreciate the inner beauty of a woman.

Men have shared surprising examples of when their women are sexiest..

No make-up, jeans, simple shirt, hair in a ponytail that is pulled through the back of a baseball cap.
Rocking her baby to sleep.
Asleep with baby in her arms.
Mowing the grass.
Wearing sweaty exercise attire.
He washes her hair.
She is curled up in his favorite chair.
She walks with the confidence of a woman who loves herself.
She gives him a simple smile,,,just because.



When a woman is confident, her positive inner feelings about herself will be visible on the outside.
She will stand tall, walk straight and live in that moment.
She is not attempting to impress anyone else, just embrace who she is.

Is being sexy more than a well toned body dressed in a revealing outfit?

Like beauty, is sexy simply in the eye of the beholder?

Sexy is not a word that should be viewed as crass and vulgar.

It is quite possible for a woman to be both classy and sexy.


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